Awareness on Self Awareness: How to Avoid Common Pitfalls and Cultivate Growth for Ourselves and Others

SEEKING BALANCE: INTERNAL VS. EXTERNAL

Whether working in an office setting around many individuals, or working remotely in a virtual world, we must know how to generate self-drive and grit. Equally important and critical to success, we also have to know how to impact and effectively work with others. Managers and leaders should identify ways to cultivate growth and inspire others with their given positions. When working in group settings towards a common goal, whether surrounded by functioning or non-functioning teams, we must have strong self-awareness of both ourselves, internally, and of how we’re perceived by others, externally.

In any given situation, we can be faced with internal struggles as well as external perceptions, both tilting the proverbial self-awareness scale. Let’s use an example to observe this more thoroughly:

A manager is given some tough constructive feedback on how she communicates with the vendors on the team. How might she react?

There’s a quadrant of models that she might fall within on the internal, external, low and high scale. Where you fall comes down to knowing yourself and being able to read others’ perception of you.

THE FOUR MODELS

Inspired by the Four-Archetypes defined by Dr. Tasha Eurich and the Harvard Business Review, let’s evaluate the scenario from earlier against the four models of internal and external self-awareness:

CULTIVATING SELF-AWARENESS

At Sendero, our leaders embed self-awareness in our competencies, culture behaviors, and core values. We actively look for ways to enhance this skill through the way we think, communicate and lead. Some effective tactics on continually cultivating self-awareness, internally and externally include:

• Pausing before acting to consider potential impacts
• Being transparent, mindful, and deliberate
• Being sensitive to the shadow one’s own position casts
• Model stewardship
• Being inclusive, approachable and welcoming

STAYING AWARE OF SELF-AWARENESS

In a fast-paced world, where information and communication travels quicker than light, we’re more at risk to miss a beat along the way – misunderstandings happen and mistakes are inevitable at every level. However, what matters more in these situations is how to constructively handle and react when something does not go right, when we are given constructive feedback, and when we are seeking to cultivate self-awareness in others. The goal is to always find a way to veer towards the model of high internal and external self-awareness. As a professional, it’s our responsibility to take a moment, and evaluate each situation we face. Ask yourself the questions below.

Probing questions to ask:

• What went wrong?
• Were there external, non-preventative, factors?
• Was it something I did?
• If it is something I did, why did I do that and what can I do to not do that again?
• How did that come off to others around (peers, clients, direct reports, my managers, etc.)?
• What can I do to show my genuine lessons learned from the situation in order to move forward?

For those who manage and grow others, work with them through these questions during difficult situations to foster good behaviors. To further cultivate appropriate behaviors in others, point out situations when they might fall into either of the three models where unhealthy outcomes might lurk and direct them towards the model of high internal and high external self-awareness.

Continuously staying aware of internal and external perceptions allows for individual and professional growth, evolvement and overall fulfillment. Managers and leaders should always introspectively assess situations to determine if they fall into the gap of reality vs. perception of the self-awareness scale. Practicing effective tactics to improve and grow will result in a better communication and leading others.

By Luba Laney